Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” David Burkus wrote an article in May 2018 on Medium.com disputing this statement, but only to say that it is bigger than five. The point to either statement is to consider who surrounds you.
David Burkus’ research shows that if you are surrounded by smokers, you are 61% more likely to smoke; if the people you’re surrounded with gain weight, you are 45% more likely to gain weight too. Perhaps the most telling study was of happiness. The researchers found that happy friends make you happier — no surprise there.
We are, without a doubt, influenced by those around us. Those around us influence our perception of what is right, good, or acceptable, and our behavior changes accordingly.
I’ve been uber-focused lately on eating healthier, so I’ve paid more attention to those around me who eat healthier.
I’ve been more intentional on my spirituality and faith practices, so I’m spending more time and seeking out advice and counsel from others who are more intentional than I am.
I’m passionate about human resources, so I surround myself with our amazing Purple Ink team, SHRM leaders, and the HR Indiana state council.
I want to be a great friend, a great mentor, and a great mom, so I spend time with those people as well.
Are you spending time with people – at work or in your personal time – who are in line (or better) with what you want for your own life? Seek out people who bring out the best in you.